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JWritten by Jackie — half-Japanese, half-American, living in Tokyo.

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Japan does not expect you to become Japanese.

Hi, I’m Jackie. I’m half-Japanese and half-American, and I’ve spent my life living between Japan and the United States. I’m fluent in both languages—and both cultures.

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Built from years of living between Tokyo and the U.S.

Bilingual & biculturalLives in TokyoNo gatekeepingUpdated for 2026
Etiquette, topic by topic

What do you want to feel confident about?

Nine areas where visitors worry most. Pick one and get the quick-reference etiquette — free, by email.

電車

Getting Around (Local)

Trains, subways, buses & taxis

The IC card, the quiet carriage, the queue painted on the platform floor: Tokyo’s trains run on small unspoken habits, and you can learn every one before you land.

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新幹線

Getting Around (National)

Shinkansen & long-distance travel

The bullet train is the easiest, most civilized way to see Japan once you know how reserved seats, luggage, and onboard quiet actually work.

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食事

Eating & Drinking

Restaurants, izakayas & street food

From standing ramen counters to your first izakaya, eat your way across Tokyo with warm, unhurried confidence — and skip the tip.

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買い物

Clothing & Shopping

What to wear & how to shop

Tokyo is one of the most stylish cities on earth, and it still has zero interest in judging your sneakers — here’s what actually matters and what truly doesn’t.

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荷造り

Packing for Your Trip

What to bring (and leave home)

Slip-on shoes, a hand towel, a little cash, and the handful of small things that quietly make Tokyo easier from the moment you land.

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温泉

Onsens & Sentos

Hot springs & public baths

Rinse off first, leave the swimsuit in the locker, keep the little towel out of the water — the bathing rituals, explained without a hint of judgment.

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神社

Temples & Shrines

Visiting sacred places

Bow at the torii, rinse your hands, drop a coin, and pause — visiting Tokyo’s shrines and temples is gentler and simpler than the ceremony makes it look.

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言葉

Language

Phrases & communication

You do not need to speak Japanese to be understood in Tokyo — you need about ten words, a phone, and the willingness to try.

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話題

Latest Controversies

Overtourism & current issues

Overtourism, dual pricing, photo bans, and the ‘bad tourist’ headlines — here’s what’s actually true, what’s just noise, and the one simple line that keeps you on the right side of all of it.

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The complete guide

The Tokyo Etiquette Guide

Everything a respectful first-timer actually needs to know — without the pressure to be perfect. Every topic on this page, answered in full — the wash-first ritual, the chopstick rules that matter, the phrases that open doors, and the current issues to know before you go.

See what’s inside
  • 9 etiquette topics, written for real first-timers
  • The few rules that genuinely matter — and the myths you can skip
  • Answers to the exact questions travelers are asking right now
  • Confidence, not perfection — so you can actually enjoy the trip

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